We all have a balance of masculine and feminine energies. Females tend to have more feminine energy and males tend to have more masculine energy. I like to think a balanced human has 60% vs 40% of energy inside of them that they operate from. For example, a balanced female will have 60% feminine energy and 40% masculine energy, and a balanced male will have 60% masculine energy and 40% feminine energy.
Feminine energy is all about FEELING and masculine energy is all about DOING.
We need both feeling and doing to manifest, create, and have healthy relationships.
Some females have way too much feminine energy, in other words they feel too much. If their feminine energy is too high and unbalanced they will attract anything into their lives that enables them to feel and they won’t discern whether it is a good or bad feeling, they just need to feel. So they will often create drama in their lives so they have another thing to feel. And when they are so busy feeling, they won’t have the capacity to take action steps (masculine energy of doing) to change their circumstances so that they feel more positive things in their life.
Whereas a female that has too much masculine energy will find that they are extremely busy all the time. They are always doing things and not spending enough time feeling what is going on within them. Sometimes they are afraid of the feelings inside, maybe it is a past hurt that they haven’t processed yet, or some hard truths about their current relationships that they aren’t ready to face, so they will be ultra busy so they can distract themselves from feeling by doing things. This is a female out of balance.
The same can be said about males. Everything needs to be a balance of DOING and FEELING.
When we are trying to manifest something into our futures we use the energy of FEELING more predominantly and then DOING to action the opportunities that move us towards our goals and dreams. Feeling is such an important energy. Our souls chose to have this physical life so we could feel. And quite frankly the soul doesn’t care what we feel or how we feel it, it just wants to feel something. So if we experience a negative feeling or a positive feeling it is still just as valid to the soul which just wants to collect experiences through feeling.
Feelings act like an imprint or a memory for our soul. So when we are trying to manifest we start out with the feeling that has been imprinted or collected by our soul. It will feel like a soul calling or an alignment. Even though the soul collects both the so called positive and negative feelings, there will be some feelings that just light us up and make us feel wonderful. This is the focus of manifesting.
If you are trying to manifest a relationship, then imagine and feel the feeling of that scenario. If you are manifesting a holiday or a relocation, imagine and feel the weather and location and notice how your body feels when you imagine the feeling of being in that place. It is the feelings that are most powerful and are going to pull you towards experiencing more of those feelings. Feelings are a feminine energy and this is the predominant energy of creation.
Even though the soul wants to experience all spectrums of feeling, it does this so it can navigate itself towards feeling the highest possible feelings aligned with its origins. In order to know itself it also needs to know what it is not. When you experience a negative or unpleasant feeling then you can choose to take action towards a positive feeling because you have the experience or the memory of what a positive or pleasant feeling is for you. This doesn’t mean that you won’t’ experience negative or unpleasant feelings ever again, but you won’t need them as much, when your radar is set to your highest experience. This can change as we all evolve and grow and more and more of our experiences are collected by our soul. We may be yearning for new experiences that we haven't’ had yet and those feelings will direct us to our next action steps.
If you are a female who feels out of balance and is always doing and striving, then you can consciously take steps to bring in more feminine energy. This can be through fashion or makeup or hair. When we look good we feel good! Bring awareness and attention to what clothes make your feel something, and change things to experiment with more feeling. When we stop doing so much, and just sit and be and breathe, we will naturally allow feelings to arise from within us. This is why many females feel the need to schedule “me time” into their days so they can sit and feel and connect with this feminine side of them.
If you are female who feels out of balance because you are feeling too much, then you can consciously take steps to bring balance with masculine energy. Maybe you can take action to move away from relationships that bring way too much unnecessary drama into your life. Instead of just passively feeling the emotions, do something about it. Say no to social events if they make you feel too much, or take steps to leave a relationship if the feelings are constant drama and arguments.
These are basic examples that can be applied to males and females who want to bring balance.
When we are in balance we can use the feeling and doing aspect to bring in new experiences that are more aligned with our next steps in the evolotuion of ourselves. We don’t need to be stuck in the same cycles, we can manifest and move into new experiences by noticing how things feel when we imagine new future possibilities and scenarios.
If someone is tossing up between two job opportunities, then it is good to imagine themselves in 6 months time going to each job, walking into the building, doing their day to day tasks and then noticing how each scenario feels in their body. Feelings will always guide someone towards their highest potential and then the action steps of DOING can follow.
We should not be scared of negative or unpleasant feelings though, as they always teach us something and are very useful for navigating our desires. If we know what we don’t want, it can be easier to figure out what we do want.
When we are allowing feelings to guide us it can be easier to use the energy of surrender to help us navigate life to our highest potential. Surrender lets us give up control of the doing, and just allow feelings to point us in the direction. Surrender allows our higher aspects of self and our guides to take the wheel. If our doing energies (masculine) is too dominant we can tend to control every detail and not allow the wonders of unexpected feelings to pop up and navigate for us.
Balance is the key in manifesting our highest potentials but always lead with the feminine/creative force of FEELING and then the masculine force of DOING can follow.
I believe that knowing who we are at our unique soul level holds the key to living an authentic and joyful life. Once we know who we are, we can begin to BE who we are, and then BECOME who we were always destined to be.
Copyright 2023 Paula Vanderzon