We create our own realities. Every moment of every day our experiences, emotions, thoughts and actions are all based on our beliefs/truths. What we see in the world around us and how we interpret this is all based on the choices we make about how we want to view the truth of this.
Each person will have a different viewpoint and perspective about events, although there are collective similarities that are influenced by the media and social constructs/norms.
When working with clients I often introduce different viewpoints or meanings to what they are experiencing. By taking a wider/higher viewpoint of what they are going through I can offer a perspective that they may not have considered. When we are stressed or in the thick of something it can be very difficult to move our consciousness out of the cycles or energy loops of grief/anger/suffering to see a different viewpoint. And it can often be challenging for people to accept that there may be a different reality to the one that they are participating in.
Sometimes I will suggest something that totally challenges everything a person holds true. I might suggest that the physical pain they are feeling is actually their body evolving, changing, moving and growing into a new vibrational space. And they may ask me - but how do you know that is true? How can you convince me that that is correct? They want concrete "proof" before they will believe and therefore shift their reality. This can be really tricky and not something I can convince someone of, but I suggest what I see is a viable alternative, and for those people that maybe humour me and go along with it just to see what happens, they do shift their reality and exciting, interesting things seem to happen.
But when we get stuck in thinking about real, correct, right/wrong, absolute realities, then we don't evolve.
I enjoy reading teenage fantasy fiction books because they let my mind explore other realities. I don't read them and analyse the content for "realness" or "correctness" I simply enjoy considering these as possible realities and relating the concepts to what could be possible in my own life and my own understanding of universal truth. Some books that I enjoyed recently include "A corner of white" series by Jaclyn Moriarty; "The night circus" by Erin Morgenstern; "Circe" by Madeline Miller. We can read books like these to "escape" our reality, but we can also use them to ignite new realities within us and therefore create them outside of us as well. I am not saying that I consider my life to be exactly how these books describe, but I do take inspiration for what might be possible, and I don't settle for the absolute reality that others seem to want to insist on (via the media and social norms) as I am determined to create a new reality and therefore a new world that I can fully live in and participate in.
Maybe we do live in parallel lives; maybe past, present and future are all happening at once; maybe we can merge with our higher selves; maybe we can evolve and change our bodies and reverse ageing; maybe we can perform miracles. Being open to all possibilities and being OK with changing our realities and our truths constantly helps us evolve away from suffering.
I know I don't want to live in a reality where old fashioned sayings such as "no rest for the wicked"; "good things come to those that wait"; "you must make sacrifices"; etc are what drives reality. This doesn't sound like a life that is fun and fulfilling for me and so I choose to create something different.
Shifting our reality means letting go of the old reality. We can't sit on the fence and live in the old at the same time as the new. At some point we have to choose what reality we want to live in, we create it, and then we live in it. This means saying goodbye to what was in the old reality - sometimes this can mean moving on from friendships, partnerships, work places or old habits and past-times. For most people this is a gradual process of trial and error and experimentation until they are ready to fully embrace the reality of their choosing - and if it is a very different reality to the people around them - then relationships can change - quite often those close to them will also move to a new reality and sometimes they will choose not to - this is OK. You can still co-exist but often in different ways.
It is time to decide what kind of world we want to live in, create those possibilities within our consciousness and then create our outer reality in the physical world that matches this. This can be done and it all starts with our individual willingness to experiment and give some new realities a try.
I believe that knowing who we are at our unique soul level holds the key to living an authentic and joyful life. Once we know who we are, we can begin to BE who we are, and then BECOME who we were always destined to be.
Copyright 2023 Paula Vanderzon