Back to normal.....
It is a phrase that we use often. When things start going crazy, a bit unexpected, or we are enduring an event or issue, then we seem to crave and hope and wish for the time that "everything goes back to normal". But this is actually an impossible wish - we can never go "back", and there isn't such as thing as "normal" in a healthy multi-dimensional life.
Instead, what we are really craving is a feeling of balance.
However, we confuse balance with control. We feel that in the "normal" way of life, we have control over our lives. When something large or unexpected happens we feel out of control and don't like the direction we are headed because it is full of the unknown and most of us fear the unknown because we don't know if we will have control over the outcome.
Normal = known = control = a feeling of balance
But we should be aiming for a change in perception to:
Trust in our life's flow and trust in the unknown (without controlling anything) = a feeling of balance
There is a part of us that likes to protect ourselves from perceived harm (some might call this the ego part of us). When a situation with an unknown outcome comes into our lives, our protector/ego parts get very distressed, because it can't do its job as well as it normally does. This causes stress as we fight with our life's flow to tighten the reigns and force life to give us more of what we already know works for us. To be faced with the unknown is very tricky for most people.
When we fight with (try to control) our life's flow then we cause our own suffering. It is like trying to row a boat upstream; exhausting and pointless.
Everything happens FOR us and not TO us - this is what flow means - we are guided to/given situations in our life from our higher self aspects to expand our awareness of ourselves, to help us make new choices that we may never have made before, and this creates a new reality of our lives and of ourselves. This is a life well lived.
It is why the unexpected events with the unknown outcomes make life so fulfilling. We find out more about who we are through these events and this is the blessing of life.
The unexpected/unknown give us an opportunity to grow, learn, evolve, transform and embrace life in way that we have never been able to do before.
Most people will tell you that the most difficult and unexpected/unwanted events in their lives turned out to be turning points that ended up bringing them a future full of joy that they couldn't have imagined previously. But the suffering through these unexpected/unwanted events (illness, divorce, retrenchment etc) is just that the unknown is not embraced as a wonderfully creative part of life. If we work with the unknown we will find balance at every moment. If we fight with the unknown then life will end up being a hot tricky and uncomfortable mess!
To work with the unknown requires a pretty big shift in mindset. We have to let go of a logical way of thinking, stop thinking about what should or should not happen, stop labelling events as right or wrong. This can challenge everything we previously believed about ourselves and our lives. The past needs to stay in the past and we are given the opportunity to wipe the slate clean and make new choices in every moment - not based on previous outcomes - but based on how we feel inside in each and every moment. We can then guide ourselves through the unknown by working with the unknown, embracing the unknown and recognising it for the creative force that it is in our lives.
It is not easy to change all of this over night, but if you are going through an unexpected life change or any kind of challenge, letting go of control and letting the unknown carry you forward can alter your experience of the event and lead you to the creative outcome that was waiting for you all along.
I believe that knowing who we are at our unique soul level holds the key to living an authentic and joyful life. Once we know who we are, we can begin to BE who we are, and then BECOME who we were always destined to be.
Copyright 2023 Paula Vanderzon